Walang pamagat na may katuturan

Inihahalintulad nya ang kanyang sarili sa dibuho ng isang larawan. Sa karangyaan ng isang pangarap na matuwid. Sa kagalingan ng isang hanay ng mayabong at matayog na paglipad ng mga ibon na naglalayag patungo kung saan ang lipad ng kanilang pangarap ay nahimpil.

Ngunit ang di nya nauunawaan ay ang lahat ng pangarap at pagsisikap ay walang katuturan , kung ang bunga nito ay nagdulot ng pighati sa kapwa at sa mundong kanyang iniikutan o ginagalawan.

Siya na may mataas na pagpupunyagi ay nabulag ng pagmamahal sa sarili ay mananaghili ng habambuhay sa lahat ng bagay na hindi nya hawak. Siya na magngangalit sa kawalan nya ng pag-ugnay sa anong tama dahil pinili nyang sundin ang paniniwalang pansirili. Ang anumang mapangahas na pagtawid ay nagdudulot din ng kapighatian. Sa pagiging uhaw nya sa katuturan at kabuhayang pinapangarap, nakalimutan na niyang ang pinakamatamis na pagkilala sa buhay na ito ay ang pagbibigay halaga sa simple at mabuti. Mga bagay na walang katumbas na halaga.

37 strands and streaks

Life is a continuous learning process and it just gives me a good enough battery to use to let me live my life and think through things that I can use and get some threads of life strands and streaks.

This year I took a stab in writing about those items and I wanted to share it here on this blog, not just to use it as a pat on my shoulder, but hopefully for those who will read this one, you will learn and get inspired by what I am sharing.

This is not an exhaustive listing of my learning but rather consider this as a part of the random writings that I've always try to express every so often to gauge and reassess my next steps ahead.

READ ON and LEARN.

1. Dream big in life. Start early with an end-goal or ambition to keep you going. 

2. Write and express yourself by all mean. Writing, I would say is my eternal passion. Ever since I learned how to weave words, metaphors and expressions , those came as my outlet when I am happy, in love, sad, angry or at a lost.

3. Love thy family. Even though I would say I have a high degree of independence, I never relinquish my dedication to my parents and extended family. Given all what I have and will have I would be glad to share and give to the best that I  can. That's simply how I realized I am.

4. No apologies. No regrets. My life is complex enough to be sorry and to regret on what I can't do and possibly control. So I try to not overdo it.

5. Health is important. When you are younger, you can let go of being careless about your health. But as you age, try to be more aware and live a happy , healthy outlook.

6. Play and enjoy life. It's a joy ride nonetheless.

7. As I age, I would say that I am like my Tatay. In over the years, as much as I do not want to admit it, I see a great deal of me from my Tatay.

8. Study hard and learn. Education is a  pass to greatness,  

9. Work hard and know what you want. Being dedicated and knowing your goals define your road ahead in the professional arena somehow.

10. Be patient. It's worth it. It's not very easy to be tolerant but always try to take a breather. 

11. Love your friends with all your heart. They were given to you for a reason even though at times you either hate them, or you get disappointed with them or you feel that they don't really care about you, your friends are your wall and baseline of courage when things get rough.

12. Learn to forgive. It's hard to forgive but try to learn to still do so.

13. Learn to forget. It's not easy to let go of hurts, but do give it a whirl and see how far can you go.

14. Always smile. I was told I look better when I smile, my eyes expresses a certain brightness by smiling. I tend to agree. :) :) :)

15. Age is a number. With years that you grow tired, but the number reminds us that we are not invincible after all. It's our focal point.

16. Count your blessings when you are feeling down. That is tried and tested way to feel optimistic!

17. Take a break from the usual routine. You deserve to take some break from time to time. Most especially when you know you're bored and you are feeling disconnected. Come back up stronger!

18. Travel. Plan to travel whether it's a short trip or a grand vacation.

19. Read stuffs - by learning new information you make a new perspective come to mind and eventually to your LIFE!

20. Compare yourself to others, it's a reminder that you're not perfect. Contrary to the saying that says otherwise.  But never indulge on why the other one is far better or lesser than you are, that's the bad side of it if you do.

21. Money makes the world spin. So you better have some of that moolah! I think it's essential to have some financial power.

22. Trust is earned. 

23. Faith is a choice.

24. Relationships are hard work, but it's a good experience nonetheless.

25. Love is powerful (or conquers all) but it's not enough in the context of being in a romantic relationship, that's a misconception.

26. Don't lose your belief system or values.

27. There is ONE Great Source of Power, never forget that.

28. Magic is real, it's inside you. Tap it!

29. Booze, wine, alcohol are your good companions too. Just drink in moderation.

30. If you stumble in your life, pick yourself up!

31. Keep it cool and avoid being high blood when the going gets tough.

32. Always communicate with your loved ones, a chat, a text, a minute to hear their voices or feel their loving warmth and hug is a blessing.

33. When death comes, mourn it, accept it and stay focus ahead

34. If you get sick, become ill , pray to GOD that HE helps you to see through it. Get some support system too.

35. Spend and indulge from time to time. It's your reward to yourself for all your hard work and diligence. DO it if you can afford it.

36. Enjoy life most of the time. Don't over worry! Don't overthink! Worry is the enemy of ageing. Do you want to look old by worrying too much?

37. Do not forget to THANK the Source for all that HE has given you, for all that will be and has been! Being grateful is a good practice, it comes back to you!

#jonTastic #JTErrificlife #livelife

The Way I See It ... These recent past few days

***PiliPINAS Election***

These days the social media, mostly FB, had steamed so much about the upcoming Philippine election. It was amusing at first but down into the homestretch I think most if not all who seemed to have one opinion over the other, had gone to the lowest point! Belittling one's preference,just to get the other one to agree with you and vice versa had been the common theme. If I think about it,the only winner on these type of sniping on each other are the political candidates who had succeeded in twisting truths with lies, morality with altruism, good intent with mere politicking. It's a "zarzuela" extra-ordinaire which I think many of us really enjoyed but at to what extent???? I just hope after the May election, whoever emerge as the people's choice, as a NATION, we can move to support and come together as ONE to rebuild and contribute for our country. After all, we cannot expect that the problem will be solved by just one man or a woman, the President or the Vice President or who ever will be elected or appointed in the government.  Whining is only for those who seem to think that they have learn much from the past, or grew up in the present predicament and/or who thinks they have the knowledge of what they think is good for the future.

*** Foul mouth or sensitive skin (balat sibuyas)***

In general, I think that it's human nature where you will not always like how someone would utter words, be it a gutter language or a diplomatic prolific monger, because it depends on your background or your so-called understanding of the situation. So I think, all these recent hoolabaloo also can be pinned down on the many people's "balat sibuyas" complex.

In general, I think Filipinos have the tendency to react and say or act on words that we hear around, or read for that matter. Whether you're a  jologs or a conio, we just really have the tendency to feel that we always have to react whether good or bad, and brew or scrutinize whoever said things what many would hail as "unacceptable" to the guidelines or standards.
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Who among us at one point in our public or private lives had uttered despicable comments and we felt it was just right to SAY without regard on what the so-called righteous would think. I have been in some situation before where I called some people DUMB or STUPID or "GAGO" out of shear emotional discontent over some decisions made in the past. I was sorry then for when I said those it was late for my choice of the channel in which I uttered those disappointment was really out of frustration. However, that channel also paved the way for me to be heard and for those who felt I maligned them in some way (though I never named anybody) also perhaps respected who I am. At the end of the day, the attitude of moving forward from the situation proved to be more important than what was said and done in that instance.

What I say here is , if the person who is DUTERTE already addressed the outpouring thoughts or comments about what he said during his speech, then perhaps you should all put a REST on yours as well. If you hate him, you hate him , as others probably hate who ever you're rooting for in this election. 

***Debate Pa-more?***

I think the people had heard enough or seen enough from the so-called debates over the last couple of months. If you think about it, the forums or debates were not really debates that showcased platforms and plans of each candidate but all just became an arena of character assassination and a venue that brewed petty social media "he said/she said" fan fare fight which only perhaps widen more gaps in the society.

Do we really need to further that gap at this point? Think about it! So I guess what I'm saying, at this point if you have already made you opinion about all these election related themes, just keep your thoughts and move on . The best thing now is exercise your rights to suffrage and pray that your choice makes a difference for the benefit of the many!

But as individuals, you're also obliged to be a hard working citizen, be diligent, be responsible and be a patient member of the society that would inspire rather than conspire against each other. That's what is gonna matter in all of these AFTER ALL.

*** On a lighter side - SHOWBIZ and more***

Congrats to the BB Pilipinas 2016 new winners! 

I also think that The Voice USA has one of the strongest batch of TOP 12. I hope Team Christina would win this season!

Ohhh I can't wait for the new season of Game of Thrones! Jon Snow forever!

I wish to join Dancing With The Stars sometime soon! 

The new Jungle Book movie. Has anyone seen it!? Must see! Promise.

Sound tripping? Listen to Leroy Sanchez, Daniel DeBourg or DDB, JRice for some good mashups! Or dance with The Fitness Marshalls! All of these are searcheable in YOUTUBE. HAVE FUN GUYS! 

Ohhh and lastly, for plain FUN you ought to watch Banana Sundae HUGOT series via YouTube as well or via LIVE TV in ABS-CBN Channel 2! Reward yourself with a gag laugh trip. LAUGH harder, feel better after wards.

There! I hope you see how I see things lately and I hope you think about it!

Good vibes all!

It's all good

"It's all good," I said to myself today. 

Each time I cross on a juncture of my life, I tell myself to be positive and never fret. It is a reminder that is considered to be easier said than done. In reality, as a human being, we can be easily susceptible to pressure and stress. Most especially, during those times when you are caught by surprise relating to untoward incidents or milestones. The same is true for anything where you seem to have a jampacked schedule and events which are happening all at the same time.

"Take it one step at a time," I told myself when things are all almost so hard to juggle.

Patience and tolerance and the inner peace is shaken when we have no means or outlet to kill the bug. It pays to really exert effort in diminishing the effect of stress and stay focus and give it a wide smile!

Hardships or difficulties in life may be points in which you no longer want to proceed with your journey. But we have a lot to learn and to embrace from the experiences so that when the time comes for us to celebrate life with full colors, you will say to yourself, "Good job!"

Everlasting

To you...

I hope you and I can learn to forgive the faults and shortcomings of each other. I realized, in my solitude, there are things I might have held you against your will by imposing conditions against the wrong deeds you've done at the beginning of our relationship. Such led you to a crossroad where you had to make things unwarranted, perhaps wrongly decided on.

Pardon me. No, I do not say this out of convenience, but I asked this because it's probably the right thing to do if I were to salvage whatever it is there left for us.

However, I do not want you to think that I condone whatever misdeeds you had. I just hope you know better this time that it doesn't warrant an act to commit another mistake just because you think it's not working, consciously or unconsciously.

I hope you also take time to forgive yourself. I just thought, you had become so hard on yourself that led you to be doubtful of your abilities in more than one way or the other being in this relationship.

If we are to be given an everlasting chance in this lifetime, I truly share my sentiment to do or try to forgive ourselves, & each other. 

Less the opinion of our friends and those who were visible to what you and I had been through, focusing on building more friendships , trusts without doubts and errors as much as possible. I know it's too stiff at this point but if we both seek a second opportunity I am only hopeful & I do think it's my best guard for myself. To take a leap of faith, perhaps bigger than what I did some three years back!

May the everlasting remembrance of our sentimental journey of love, and hate and indifference fill up the path to healing, love and rekindled, more clear and stronger partnership/friendship and what not.

To say my love is stronger won't matter at this point, but I send you my everlasting thoughts of sincerity in all forms and cross boundaries of this Earth and the vast Heavens! 

Everlasting sincerity to kill all doubts and fuel our inspirations to continue on...

Last Thursday: A moment of reflection

* This blog article was written last Thursday.


Over Mc Donald's Cheeseburger meal I found myself writing.

Fear not the unknown as most quotes would say!!! Fear is only a pigment of what is yet to transpire. From an optimistic point of view, it's rather a good reminder that we are not in control.

This morning I was awakened by a call from my father who again experienced difficulty in breathing and chest pains. Talking about rush and emergency eh! It was Several weeks ago since he first complained about his chest. And it led us to conduct a series of emergency check ups just to make sure we're dealing with it properly if we could.

For somebody who is on his sunset years, it's probably expected he will have complains like that.

As this is biting on us, I can't help but think of fear. I guess, as part of my human nature , I can't be secluded from feeling this way. After all, There are things at stake.  Over the last couple of years, I had enjoyed and been very thankful on the good things that came my way. To think that something untoward may happen is really disturbing. How do I kill that insecurity? Well, to tell you honestly I don't know how. But I am delighted to say to you that I get by and Perhaps by reminding myself that I am stronger than I thought I am, then I am able to win over the pessimistic viewpoint that I aM experiencing.

It's rather difficult to feel bad but I think a real good attitude would serve better for me.

My father is no longer young and the sooner I accept that maybe soon he may say goodbye (for time being) just like that, it would seem fit for me so that moving on or adjustments may not really be that hard. No one's ready in this type of concern but my awareness may be my best armor for this.

Behind all the curtains and colorful hues of life that my dad and I experienced, I'd like to believe that who ever controls the light on the stage will bode for us a real and good happy ending. After all, I think we both deserve that.

Today's lesson

Some lessons or realizations i learned a few hours ago about being in a homosexual relationship. 

1. You either don't have a say about his or her acts ot decision. Plain simple insensitive stubborness...

2. You're not married so you don't get to officially decide for the welfare of each other. The promises you said or committment for each other is simply not as solidified by union of marriage. Asa ka pa!

3. You're still nobody , you're not even blood related so he/she can dismiss your suggestions, opinions, inputs or rants. That's as far as he/she can make you feel if he/she doesn't want to acknowledge your presence.

4. You're probably just into the relationship when he/she thinks it's okay &  that there's always who would understand and be more calm. In this case, maybe call the other person  "walang pakialam" for apparently missing the essence of partnership and even friendship that is to CARE for one or feel CARED about.

5. Each is still  his or her own person & with excuse #2 in line, you cannot push your agenda even if it is for your partner's sake. You may just become the KONTRABIDA to his face if you will push it. So what u can do is just zip you mouth! 

6. "Bakla ako eh!" Maybe true that being gay could be an excuse. But it's rather a Bull excuse to not see that some good intentions are meant not just for the partnership but for the supposed recipient of the intent. It's not being gay that made you as a person who cares, it's being human and it's also human to feel bad when your partner seems to not acknowledge your good intent.

It's just sad that many gay men perhaps will experience the same scenario and they won't find a way to get out of it. 

It may take a one great deal of miracle or big fall perhaps to make someone realize that to be in a relationship with someone gay or not, is bred with  mutual respect and we just have to remind ourselves that we do it coming from a best place within our heart. Sad to say such spirit isn't always noticed as it's clouded by closemindedness.