Relasyon Uno oh Uno

Mahirap ang relasyon kung sa simula ay may nasirang tiwala. Kung mahal mo ang isang tao, sabi nila handa kang bigyan ng pagkakataon ang anumang nasimulan ninyo basta pareho kayong nasa tamang isip at pagkakasundo.

Hindi perpekto ang relasyon , ‘yan ay isang katotohanang alam nating lahat. Just like any other things in this world , nobody and nothing is perfect so it takes a great deal of readiness, maturity and strength to withstand anything that may hinder the experience and things.

Ang pakikipagrelasyon ay talagang mahirap lalo na nga’t naging simula nito ay di maayos. Kung nagdesisyon kayong ituloy ito dahil sinasabi nyong gusto nyo itong ituloy at dahil alam niyo na ang pagmamahalan ninyo sa isa’t-isa ay malakas at wagas, then nothing really should stand in the way or if there is any, then you can combat it along the way.

Nakakapagod ang pakikipag-relasyon, para itong trabaho na kailangan laging may “status check”, may constant review of what’s being done right or otherwise, checkpoint on each other’s behavior and attitude as individuals and as partners in a relationship.  Sa lahat ng mga bagay na yan palagi kong sinasabi na isang malaking factor ang pagiging handa mo para magampanan mong mabuti ang role mo sa relationship. Bukod sa love mo sa iyong partner (gf, bf, ka-MU) talagang dapat alam mong may bahagi ng buong proseso na “You want it to work and be nurtured!”.

Pero paano nga ba gagawin ang lahat ng ito, ang alam mong mahal mo yung partner mo, ang alam mong gusto mo itong mag-work, ang alam mo at sigurado kang nais mo itong maging isang huwarang relasyon kahit pa medyo roller-coaster experience ito?  Hindi ko din alam ang sagot sa totoo lang. Kasi sa dami ng pedeng scenarios or pagsubok sa aspetong ito, hindi ko alam kung aling tamang formula talaga ang nagwowork. 

Ang alam ko lang masarap maging “in a relationship” sa kabila ng mga pangit at magagandang karanasan na pede ninyong masalubong sa inyong “journey together”.

I guess, what I can say is, it’s not a perfect ride but it’s a colorful experience. And yes, it’s true that TIME/PERFECT TIMING will be a factor for your relationship because it will be a test of time that will also strengthen your bond together. For some, may mga pagkakataong bumitaw na sila agad sa relasyon at pagkatapos noon ay hindi na muling sumugal dahil natakot. For some again, may mga iniwan dahil nagsawa ang kabila sa mga kahinaan ng kanyang partner at dahil duon naging dulot sa kabila ang maging “jaded”.   So, I think TIMING is a factor and of course yung DEDICATION and PATIENCE that goes with it. 

In reality, mas mahirap gawin yun, kasi lahat tayo ay TAO lamang , may kanya-kanya tayong topak at concerns na minsan bumubulag sa tamang judgement natin.  Pero siguro kung AWARE tayo about our weaknesses and we are amenable to that, it gives us an EDGE to win this love war. 

Again, I'm not an authority but all these tender ideas may be applicable in one way or the other! After all, "All is fair in love and war," as the saying goes!!!

I'm rather hopeful and I choose to be upbeat than otherwise

There are confusions and questions and constant battle inside my head these days that I want to dislodge and eradicate.

That for a moment I say that I will be okay and my partner will be happy. It will be a good ending for us. An expectation I draw in my mind and throw out now into the Universe to accept and spread throughout.

And that he and I will be made stronger by this current crossroad which is optimistically promising if we only know how to face the music and win the challenge.

I will only look forward and give myself the chance to see the best of things in the coming months. From that I do hope that my partner will also exercise the loyalty, wit and intelligence to stay true to our course and be courageous when things are not going well.

But know and realize now, that even though you may become sad or alone , I am on the far end of the world where I will send my love, my spirit and joy to inflict love and sincerity to the devotion and partnership that I've committed unto you.

I view this cloud as rather hopeful and filled with good promise from the two hearts whose sincere and loving spirits are powerful enough to make the relationship endure.

I may look at the dark, rough patches as points of uncertainties but I must say that I do know that you and I are bred to become better and stronger. For we are wild, brusque and strong just to be shattered into pieces that easily.

My heart goes to the loving promise, the alignment of hearts and commitment of two bright minds during this time where the unthinkable were made whole and running, while  the peculiar aspects had become the simple norm of times.

In the end, I am rather hopeful and I see that the promises made can be executed entirely for the benefit of two beings who had been enveloped in rough start but had been made pliant by the complexities that were laid before their eyes!

CHEERFUL PASSAGE TO A NEW YEAR!!!

It's going to be New Year in a few hours from now. Just like the towering Mt. Matutum standing tall and proud in the fertile, progressive land of South Cotabato, I am inspired to see how we are given a vast opportunity to do good and become better each time.



Mt. Matutum in Dole Pineapple Plantation, Polomolok, South Cotabato



I stand here in this vast field of Dole pineapple plantation & I can't help but reflect how blessed I am to stand and witness a wonderful creation by the Power that that put me here in this world.

 

I am thankful to the year that will pass by. Surely, it was not a perfect ride because there were times I doubted and almost felt discontented with how things are going. But I persevered and continued to have an optimistic attitude that served well for me in the long run.

 

In the upcoming year, I am just prayful and I am hopeful that I will continue to be blessed with strength and power beyond measure! I will be showered with more wit and smart strategies to win any obstacles that I may come across with. I will be bestowed the love, the good health and the wealth that I hope to have and more to receive.



I wish the world a Happy New Year ahead, that is filled with peace, love and healing of land and body!

 

I send CHEERS to all, so it is double, triple CHEERS I openly want to receive!!!

 

Just like the tall and massive active mountain of Matutum volcano in front of me while writing this small year greeter, I say, "THANK YOU and GOD BLESS US ALL IN THE YEAR 2013!"

On giving your love a second chance?

EARLIER AT WORK.....one of my office gal pal asked, will I give someone who I hold dear a second chanceif I learned something not so good that could strike out the relationship?

I answered her, "Oo. Kasi gusto ko eh. Siguro sa part ko, I'd like to develop a better understanding of me and my love one's individuality, para malaman ko kung bakit nga ba dapat ko siya bigyan ng second chance. 

'Di ko alam, maybe it's LOVE... & so I'd like to think that new chances may be made special because of that LOVE. Of course, HE should be sincere to earn it that back again and I need to start trusting again, it will be bliss to let that happen --- that is TO let myself trust the one I care about once again."


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#HeartFeltLaughterAfter

Mornings of love

Many times in my past I have always dreamt of spending a different kind of routine apart from my usual stuffs. Special moments of waking up , looking at my window and thinking what the new day may have in store for me. To experience it knowing someone is with me to take a peek on what the new day seems to promise for us.

Today, among the many days and mornings that I've experienced in my life, I've come to share this beautiful Saturday morning with  someone I hold close dear to my heart. An awesome and real happy times that I cannot just let go just like that.

I never want this moment to end. I want each morning, each day to be a well-spent time. Be it on this current location where I stay or in the future home that I want to build and develop or to the new apartment I may be renting someday. Each new day knowing you are loved and inspired makes your life more meaningful amidst the stresses that you might encounter later in the day.

Mornings of love. Moments of love. In all the coming days of my life, I claim it to be.  Whether it  will be sunny, rainy or snowy, I hold true to my dream come true...with someone like you!

Defy some demons

I defy gravity. I go against the tides. Some people are not bred to withstand any thing that comes along their way, especially if it's a big hurdle.

I say this because as  person I know there could be certain personalities that each of us will meet in our lives. Take for instance anyone who is close and dear to your heart. That person may agree or disagree with the things that you want them to do and in the long run hurt you more than you hurt them. It is quite lonely to think that there could be things that you need to just let go and not talk about. And maybe sometimes it's best not to discuss those stuffs to avoid further stresses in your situation.

I process a lot and I analyze so deeply anything that goes and comes my way. It is not an easy process for me to do this but it is certainly a learning curve that I will deal with. It's simply because I thrive to live and tend to say to myself , just do what you think is rightful in your heart and believe that the other person will just take care of the situation to your liking. 

It's love. It's hate. It's nothing when you don't feel anything and you don't care. It will be death when that comes. 

Falling for someone and knowing that you are starting to care

... is perhaps one of the best thing that I can say I have never felt in a long while 

...is indeed real when you know that you would be worried more than he/she is if there are almost seemingly obvious reasons to be worried about

... is such a sweet feeling to have because it reminds you that you are human and capable of love

... is very scary too because it's like a two bladed sword where you might get hurt and at the same time be happy! I choose to be happy feeling like this.

... is when you both feel the need to care about what is happening to each others life be it small  pimple or a big wrinkle in life 

... is really one good reminder that you are ready to take another chance not knowing what  may lie ahead for both of you , in good faith, in strong will and high risk .. to be together through thick and think, to love and to hold one another for richer or poorer 

... I say , may it be a good will to see through the future, no obstacles only smooth journeys with the grace of the Universe!