My good friend, Mr. JR once told me,” What can I say? That it takes all kinds to make a world? That what people perpetuate in fancy and grandstanding speeches do not necessarily reflect who they are?
A little lesson in patience, my friend...and tolerance. If you feel your boss embodies a sickening duality, then that HIS problem. No act of pretense can last forever, you know. What is important is that you focus on what you truly want and channel your energies to the fulfillment of your ambitions…lofty or otherwise. We cannot simply surround ourselves with ONLY PEOPLE we choose to like. That is not the way of the world.”
Those beautiful words are not always slammed into your very face each day of your life right? But for me it was one of the many inspiring advices I’ve heard regarding patience.
For a while now, I’ve worked with an individual whom I discovered to be just like any others. Yet he claims he’s perfect and Godly. What a sin to heaven?!
I am in no liberty to discuss his name. He’s a big influential person. He has connections to the high official of this land. His personality to them was good, extraordinary and excellent. But of course, that’s how they knew him in social gatherings, events and functions.
I got the chance to work with him. In that span of time, I learned his other nature to be impatient, inconsiderate, overly perfectionists and will shout at you if you commit even a slight mistake. This guy is sick I thought to myself. I got so disappointed because that was really different from how I first knew him. After weeks of being with him, he started to act strangely and I know something is wrong. I never imagined that his strange character will be cast upon me.
I adored him for a time yet it all changed at one snap. I tried to reason it to myself maybe he’s just pressured. So I continued with my work and duties, setting aside the emotional turmoil that I was already feeling that time. He has not change from the time he has shown me his other side. At first, I did not want to be affected with his attitude. I tried to be more objective about it to the point I felt am justifying his inconsistent behavior, sacrificing my own beliefs on fair and equality among beings.
I grew quite tired as days went by and my stress hormone was in saturation all over my body. So I knew I have to go. I tried to talk with him, but I did not get a very positive response. He did not want me to go, because according to him we have a verbal agreement and that my word of honor is at stake.
I told him that is why I want to talk with him so we can meet in the middle? Isn’t that right? But he did not allow it.
I then have to formalize my goodbye by giving him a letter which when I handed he readily set aside and pretend nothing happened. Yet I know when I left him, he has read it. Why? It is because during that day that I gave him the letter, he has directly tried to accuse me of work inconsistencies which did not happen in my first few days with him. I knew he was trying to make me angry or speak back at him which I did not. I wrote again a letter explaining my side and already stating my last will about my works with him. That was it, the last word I said to him was “God bless.”
Later on, I learned that prior to me he had employed other staffs that did not stay long like me. So I guess there must something wrong with him. He is not even in good terms with his relatives as I know.
Behind all his honors that will fade with time, is a man not perfect. It is very disappointing to note that such grandstanding image emanates a blur aura of emotional hurts or setbacks. That is being inflicted on innocent people surrounding him.
A little patience and tolerance like my friend Mr. JR told me. And I’d say compassion as well. On that note, I was thinking if I have learned patience and tolerance or did I lose it and have succumbed. What about my self-respect, confidence that is slowly bursting away because of the harsh spoken words thrown just to disgrace me, the million “other Filipinos” he is pertaining to, the type of school where I came from?
I learned that patience and tolerance is earned and incurred in that experience of mine. Although I have spoken back at him at times, I know I was just stating a fact. A man is tamed only if he allows it to happen.
What most big time people do not realize is that God molded us in different patterns. They cannot change the world but we change can start with themselves in time. God did not dictate to His people to change overtime which powerful people on this planet acting like God wants to do to the average being. While it is true that many people choose to live a low life, it is not a good barometer of their totality that they are lesser, unfortunate or animal likes. This is also true to those people that live and have achieved high but are not exactly the type of high class individual they try to convey with others around them. It will take a great amount of understanding to love each others individuality. I have read before in a book of highly effective living that each must try to understand each other that is, exert tolerance so to speak. It will help in your excursion on this Earth.
Patience is a virtue. I have heard it over so many times. It is so inspiring in a way. But while it is true, do you believe that in all occasion patience and tolerance is always the winning gun? The question of, Does every golden rule applies in every situation of life? I dare say, “Not in all.”
I have been finding ways to practice patience or serenity. And so it will take my self more practice to achieve it largely. This will hold true to others as well, big time or average being.
Patience is practice and needed when we deal with people. It is necessary when we talk to someone who is lesser of knowledge, which is simple understanding.
Patience is a must have when we feel that nothing can be achieved if we will just try to outwit each other’s guts or intelligence, which is simple generosity in giving credit to whom it is due. This is what outwitting politicians need.
Patience is required to a leader. No ounce of achievement can be boasted to others if you cannot even exude an excellent amount of patience to anyone. Patience is one type of honor that will not die with time.
Patience is a practice that all individuals must realize, like me. It is not necessary if we have stumbled down. It is vital though that we learned to actualize tolerance, patience, or serenity in each of our steps.
I am not preaching this thing out loud if I have not learned this thing the hard way in my experience. I am not perfect. But experience is the best teacher so I would like to share it all with you.
Life is a continuous journey. It will take a lot of patience not just for you but also to him, to her, to me, to my friends, to my love ones, to my enemies to attain each of our goals. Some of us have been patient and tolerant to have won and achieve while others have taken steps to actualize it and have slightly gain honor from it. On the contrary, there are others that learned it the hard way. By learning it, they have to go down and must take the longer course or lesson.
This is not just a little lesson in patience and tolerance. This is an essential itinerary in life. We must remember it.
Tuesday, February 17, 2004
The German Boss
This is the part 2 of the blog series: The 3 Bosses and the Boss' Son
….and so the story continues.
Time went by and the company of the German boss moved on. Rules were made and implemented, his people quite ok with the trend and happy with their lives. Yet, things are not always positive. The German boss has always been known to have his favorites. Although he will not admit it, he has shown a different treatment among his members. Murmur lingered on that he was in favor of MJ, one of his most capable and bright employee. There was no question that MJ is good at work that is why he earned the adulation of the German boss. Yet, MJ grew to be quite over confident which made his co-workers a bit unease about it.
There came a point when MJ, being the good worker that he is had gone overboard. The rules being implemented by the German boss got spoiled. It happened because it turned out that the rules in place are not necessarily being implemented for all but only to few. The German boss allowed MJ to break some rules without him getting punish. That prove to be unfair to everyone yet the German boss was not troubled. His staff cannot do anything, they are afraid and they have not been so vocal about their comments anymore since the time that rules were sorted out. Although in the rule, there was a statement saying they can voice out their feelings or grievances. And although there was an assurance it will be given due process, the workers did not bother to comment that much. They have become a bit passive.
It is very understandable why workers at work have become so passive about their grievances towards the rule, the company boss and its essential elements. There is lot of things to consider like their job, high salary, benefits etc. That is quite a package indeed.
Before all this, the German boss had a considerable match in the name of David. Like David and Goliath they are the pair that moved the office into controversy. David is one of the loud voice in their office. It happened years ago when David was still employed in that office. At first, like any young individual David was filled with good hopes and expectation. His first months have been very fruitful and quite innovative. But David, as intelligent, good and quick-wit as he is, was also the voice, the straight-frank lad that foiled him into bad light.
It first happened when the German boss came to him privately that he is talking too much and suggesting too much. What did David think during that time? Well, he was surprised to hear that from the German boss. Although it seems to be a very cordial conversation, from that point on he got a warning. He had to seal his lips a bit and prove to his boss that he’s not just the activist that he is but the work performer. For David, that was a turning point. He felt he’s being eyed and all his acts are monitored. He did not say much to his friends in the office although they knew about the conversation that David and the German boss had.
Time went by that David and the German boss would get into occasional heated discussion that boiled harder and harder. Issues like office rules and some administrative concerns were raised and thrown. David did not bow that much and had to continue questioning the integrity of the rules. Of course, the German boss was pissed off. Yet he did not attack straight-forward. He had his own way by giving David a bad marked on his performance and in addition to this are some words during their one on one evaluation meeting. David is not that easy to be styled or persuaded, he has to defend himself why he should not be getting that grade. Although as it looked like a very democratic conversation, the moment that David made his comments on, he knew that again he is marked. Nevertheless, David did not stop. For him, it was a chance and if he’s not going to discuss the issue then it will be over.
Such encounters between David and Goliath (the German boss) were milestone. But it ended quite not satisfying.
The company that the German boss manages had a trouble maintaining everyone on board so to speak. So they opted to retrenched seven people in the company. The reason for the down-sizing was money. But the reason for how the 7 people were chosen was not discussed. The German boss said the choice was made through evaluation. It was kind of hard to believe. Everyone was shocked with the event and had been clipped with their wings. Some commented and had to contend themselves with murmurs. Others voiced out their thoughts and had to feel very down. The German boss looked like a good dog. It is not clear how he really feels about cutting the size of his staff. Yet, what made that event controversial was the choice of people he had to draw. Most of the people in that roster were loud-voice at some points. It’s like cutting and trimming all the thorns in the branch so that things will be smoother for him. It’s also unbelievable ‘coz it seemed that his favoritism showed up by simply letting go of the others that are far better than those left behind.
Now, each has their own lives. The seven lucky individual have gone to many places in their walk of lives. The people that were left behind are now all big time earners but still full of reserved feelings. They have grown passive and have not really stepped up to speak much. Take note though, they are richer now. Money for silence? Maybe it does not apply to everyone.
The German boss is still the same old person. By old person meaning, exuding dual nature that is good and bad. He continues to play the role of the puppet master in that office. Making his people believe he’s all fair and good.
It can be said that some of his subordinates are in favor of his acts, deeds and craziness. Why not! They enjoy his favor. It’s like leeches on the back of the buffalo.
On the other hand, some did remain in the middle while slowly building their dreams and earning, having the benefits that is due to them. Passive-wise individuals!
Others remained with their sharpened claws and continue with the legacy of the original activist. Who knows what is going to happen next?
The German boss has remained strong. Admittedly, he has the character of a real boss. Although he is not that admirable, he has shown strength and will to govern. He cannot simply please all of his subordinates yet he remained strong to the point of sacrificing the perfect adoration of everyone that knew him. On the contrary, with his character he has already sculptured his path to dissection of people that knew him in and out of his work and curricular activities.
The German boss’ character, ways and deeds is just one of the many faces in the history of the corporate tycoon there exists. And the character of his subordinates is simply one of the many types there exists in the working class. Which one are you? Or you’re not anyone of them? Maybe you’ll be in the next story.
THE END
COMING SOON…The Brat Boss
….and so the story continues.
Time went by and the company of the German boss moved on. Rules were made and implemented, his people quite ok with the trend and happy with their lives. Yet, things are not always positive. The German boss has always been known to have his favorites. Although he will not admit it, he has shown a different treatment among his members. Murmur lingered on that he was in favor of MJ, one of his most capable and bright employee. There was no question that MJ is good at work that is why he earned the adulation of the German boss. Yet, MJ grew to be quite over confident which made his co-workers a bit unease about it.
There came a point when MJ, being the good worker that he is had gone overboard. The rules being implemented by the German boss got spoiled. It happened because it turned out that the rules in place are not necessarily being implemented for all but only to few. The German boss allowed MJ to break some rules without him getting punish. That prove to be unfair to everyone yet the German boss was not troubled. His staff cannot do anything, they are afraid and they have not been so vocal about their comments anymore since the time that rules were sorted out. Although in the rule, there was a statement saying they can voice out their feelings or grievances. And although there was an assurance it will be given due process, the workers did not bother to comment that much. They have become a bit passive.
It is very understandable why workers at work have become so passive about their grievances towards the rule, the company boss and its essential elements. There is lot of things to consider like their job, high salary, benefits etc. That is quite a package indeed.
Before all this, the German boss had a considerable match in the name of David. Like David and Goliath they are the pair that moved the office into controversy. David is one of the loud voice in their office. It happened years ago when David was still employed in that office. At first, like any young individual David was filled with good hopes and expectation. His first months have been very fruitful and quite innovative. But David, as intelligent, good and quick-wit as he is, was also the voice, the straight-frank lad that foiled him into bad light.
It first happened when the German boss came to him privately that he is talking too much and suggesting too much. What did David think during that time? Well, he was surprised to hear that from the German boss. Although it seems to be a very cordial conversation, from that point on he got a warning. He had to seal his lips a bit and prove to his boss that he’s not just the activist that he is but the work performer. For David, that was a turning point. He felt he’s being eyed and all his acts are monitored. He did not say much to his friends in the office although they knew about the conversation that David and the German boss had.
Time went by that David and the German boss would get into occasional heated discussion that boiled harder and harder. Issues like office rules and some administrative concerns were raised and thrown. David did not bow that much and had to continue questioning the integrity of the rules. Of course, the German boss was pissed off. Yet he did not attack straight-forward. He had his own way by giving David a bad marked on his performance and in addition to this are some words during their one on one evaluation meeting. David is not that easy to be styled or persuaded, he has to defend himself why he should not be getting that grade. Although as it looked like a very democratic conversation, the moment that David made his comments on, he knew that again he is marked. Nevertheless, David did not stop. For him, it was a chance and if he’s not going to discuss the issue then it will be over.
Such encounters between David and Goliath (the German boss) were milestone. But it ended quite not satisfying.
The company that the German boss manages had a trouble maintaining everyone on board so to speak. So they opted to retrenched seven people in the company. The reason for the down-sizing was money. But the reason for how the 7 people were chosen was not discussed. The German boss said the choice was made through evaluation. It was kind of hard to believe. Everyone was shocked with the event and had been clipped with their wings. Some commented and had to contend themselves with murmurs. Others voiced out their thoughts and had to feel very down. The German boss looked like a good dog. It is not clear how he really feels about cutting the size of his staff. Yet, what made that event controversial was the choice of people he had to draw. Most of the people in that roster were loud-voice at some points. It’s like cutting and trimming all the thorns in the branch so that things will be smoother for him. It’s also unbelievable ‘coz it seemed that his favoritism showed up by simply letting go of the others that are far better than those left behind.
Now, each has their own lives. The seven lucky individual have gone to many places in their walk of lives. The people that were left behind are now all big time earners but still full of reserved feelings. They have grown passive and have not really stepped up to speak much. Take note though, they are richer now. Money for silence? Maybe it does not apply to everyone.
The German boss is still the same old person. By old person meaning, exuding dual nature that is good and bad. He continues to play the role of the puppet master in that office. Making his people believe he’s all fair and good.
It can be said that some of his subordinates are in favor of his acts, deeds and craziness. Why not! They enjoy his favor. It’s like leeches on the back of the buffalo.
On the other hand, some did remain in the middle while slowly building their dreams and earning, having the benefits that is due to them. Passive-wise individuals!
Others remained with their sharpened claws and continue with the legacy of the original activist. Who knows what is going to happen next?
The German boss has remained strong. Admittedly, he has the character of a real boss. Although he is not that admirable, he has shown strength and will to govern. He cannot simply please all of his subordinates yet he remained strong to the point of sacrificing the perfect adoration of everyone that knew him. On the contrary, with his character he has already sculptured his path to dissection of people that knew him in and out of his work and curricular activities.
The German boss’ character, ways and deeds is just one of the many faces in the history of the corporate tycoon there exists. And the character of his subordinates is simply one of the many types there exists in the working class. Which one are you? Or you’re not anyone of them? Maybe you’ll be in the next story.
THE END
COMING SOON…The Brat Boss
Thursday, February 12, 2004
A Valentine Offering
Be my valentine just for a while
Be my someone special just for a time
I love you and I need you
You are the one for me, don't you know?
It started as an admiration
Now its an infectious emotion
Am so down without you
My life is in shamble right now
You are the sweet pill I need to swallow...
It is such a shame for me
'Coz I know you don't really want me
But what can I do, I do like you
No matter what and no matter how
I am the one for you and no one else
Forgive me 'coz am coward to say this
But I know somehow you know
That I have this special thing for you
All I ask of you, give me chance
Or I'll lose my heart in a glance
Be my someone special just for a time
I love you and I need you
You are the one for me, don't you know?
It started as an admiration
Now its an infectious emotion
Am so down without you
My life is in shamble right now
You are the sweet pill I need to swallow...
It is such a shame for me
'Coz I know you don't really want me
But what can I do, I do like you
No matter what and no matter how
I am the one for you and no one else
Forgive me 'coz am coward to say this
But I know somehow you know
That I have this special thing for you
All I ask of you, give me chance
Or I'll lose my heart in a glance
Thursday, February 05, 2004
The 3 bosses and the boss' son
It's always a horrifying experience when times at work doesn't alway feel good. Why? We can probably attribute it with the bosses we encounter each day of our lives.
In my three years of work experience I've come across with only one type of boss. All of them are kind of superior and blatantly disrespectful at times to their subordinates. These bosses tend to break the rule of equality so to speak. PErhaps because of what we can call "boss syndrome" the power that they have harnessed in their mind, body and spirit is so uncontainable to them. With that, they cannot even step back or moved down to a level of understanding that can benefit or create a win-win solution between parties involved.
Let me share with you the story of the 3 bosses and the boss' son. Since this is going to be a very long story I will be serializing it so it won't be that hard to read.
THE GERMAN BOSS
At one look , he's good looking. At one touch he's warm and exciting. Yet at one mistake, he's a german shepherd. That's the german boss.
It was a very tough experience for people who have worked with him. He seems to exude compassion but tyranny lies in its basic reality. He's a superior officer, manager of a start up medium enterprise. Usually, if you are a company with small population, interaction and communication is best practiced. Employees are encourage to participate in rule making and are ask or consulted on various grounds that will affect the company as a whole. Well, the german boss is so warm and encouraging about this. Yet things do get turned into a bitter and cold level when the things that are being discussed are way too hard to accept in the mind of this german boss. The "boss syndrome" is jerking around his physicality and mentality. I thought it's a democratic company but when the employees started stating their suggestion based on what the labor code says, the german boss doesn't accept much what the law states. That was avery big problem...
(to be continued)
In my three years of work experience I've come across with only one type of boss. All of them are kind of superior and blatantly disrespectful at times to their subordinates. These bosses tend to break the rule of equality so to speak. PErhaps because of what we can call "boss syndrome" the power that they have harnessed in their mind, body and spirit is so uncontainable to them. With that, they cannot even step back or moved down to a level of understanding that can benefit or create a win-win solution between parties involved.
Let me share with you the story of the 3 bosses and the boss' son. Since this is going to be a very long story I will be serializing it so it won't be that hard to read.
THE GERMAN BOSS
At one look , he's good looking. At one touch he's warm and exciting. Yet at one mistake, he's a german shepherd. That's the german boss.
It was a very tough experience for people who have worked with him. He seems to exude compassion but tyranny lies in its basic reality. He's a superior officer, manager of a start up medium enterprise. Usually, if you are a company with small population, interaction and communication is best practiced. Employees are encourage to participate in rule making and are ask or consulted on various grounds that will affect the company as a whole. Well, the german boss is so warm and encouraging about this. Yet things do get turned into a bitter and cold level when the things that are being discussed are way too hard to accept in the mind of this german boss. The "boss syndrome" is jerking around his physicality and mentality. I thought it's a democratic company but when the employees started stating their suggestion based on what the labor code says, the german boss doesn't accept much what the law states. That was avery big problem...
(to be continued)
Tuesday, February 03, 2004
Today and Yesterday then Tomorrow
Today is the day and can be considered the start of something that we are yet to see unless it happens. Yesterday is a memory, good or bad.
Yesterday I had to struggle again from my thought of not doing anything except to stay bum. And so it was yesterday that I had to go to my work training and commit a lot of set backs that expanded up to this present day. I don't know why and what has happened. It seems to me that the planets, moon and stars are not in the mood to motivate my jolly, inspired and energetic vibe.
Today as I've said, my feelings from yesterday had extended. Why do I have to undergo an "off" mind in two consecutive days? I don't want this feeling 'cause it affects my performance. I mean , at this point I don't have anything to think about. I am in hibernation from much work, so it is less corrupting. But yesterday and today, I had to struggle from an unknown feeling that even I cannot understand.
This feeling did affect my work training and it's not a very good sign. Although now, at the time I am writing this article, I am on my way home. I just drop by the net station to express this unresolve thought.
Life is mysterious as it has always been. Yesterday and today is just like any ordinary day but I did not feel good, light and joyous at all. Another mood swing that foiled me into a sudden drop of feeling that I have hope to uplift. Hay!
Oh well, it's not a very big deal. If I would be thinking much about it then it is. I guess I have to let it out and take a deep breath. In a matter of time, the evening sky will reflect darkness and I can't afford to let this unwanted feeling extend again to another day, that is tomorrow.
Yesterday I had to struggle again from my thought of not doing anything except to stay bum. And so it was yesterday that I had to go to my work training and commit a lot of set backs that expanded up to this present day. I don't know why and what has happened. It seems to me that the planets, moon and stars are not in the mood to motivate my jolly, inspired and energetic vibe.
Today as I've said, my feelings from yesterday had extended. Why do I have to undergo an "off" mind in two consecutive days? I don't want this feeling 'cause it affects my performance. I mean , at this point I don't have anything to think about. I am in hibernation from much work, so it is less corrupting. But yesterday and today, I had to struggle from an unknown feeling that even I cannot understand.
This feeling did affect my work training and it's not a very good sign. Although now, at the time I am writing this article, I am on my way home. I just drop by the net station to express this unresolve thought.
Life is mysterious as it has always been. Yesterday and today is just like any ordinary day but I did not feel good, light and joyous at all. Another mood swing that foiled me into a sudden drop of feeling that I have hope to uplift. Hay!
Oh well, it's not a very big deal. If I would be thinking much about it then it is. I guess I have to let it out and take a deep breath. In a matter of time, the evening sky will reflect darkness and I can't afford to let this unwanted feeling extend again to another day, that is tomorrow.
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